Last week at our Wednesday Night Live program, I invited our teens to ask questions about love anonymously that we will seek to answer over the next two weeks. I shared a couple already, but I thought I might pick your brain with the entire list, and see if they spark any thoughts in you. Here’s the list:
- Does love always hurt?
- What do you do?
- Why do some people resist love?
- Can we watch A Night At The Roxbury sometime? (I used Haddaway’s What is Love in our video for the evening).
- Are there levels of love?
- Why does love hurt?
- What is sex?
- How do love and sex combine?
- What is the point where people can date?
- At what point is purple okay?
- Why do people love?
- When is it okay to look at a girl’s body?
- Do we all have soulmates?
- How should we show our love as Christians to a girlfriend/boyfriend?
- Why should we love?
- How can we love people who hurt us?
- Why does love exist?
- Is love kissing? And when you do [kiss] and they [the one you kissed] dump you was that love to start off with?
- Can love be felt by anyone? Is it felt for everyone?
So leave your thoughts/answers. Who knows, your answer may be included in the final lesson plan! And please, attempt to use Scripture to back up your answer (just don’t proof-text).
All questions came from a group of 7th grade through 12th grade students.
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Great site and one i will be coming back for. Life is a destination and not a journey. Kevin (newbie christian)
I think you should tackle the “what is sex” question. Bring in science class diagrams and everything. I am sure that parents won’t mind.
As for these questions, some of them are really poignant. You can get a great idea of what is going through their heads. What might be fun to do is to turn the questions back to them. Pass out the best of these on a handout, play some soft music, and give them some time to answer them. Then have them discuss their answers with the group as a whole.
(o and if you want a screen game that deals with romantic movies for your Valentine’s lesson, check out <a href=”http://www.nailscars.com/love-quiz-download/”title=”http://www.nailscars.com/love-quiz-download/ “
sorry, I messed up the tag. But you get the idea
that’s okay shane. you already sent me the link yesterday (i e-mailed ya for it).
i like your ideas.
I don’t really have the time or do I have a bible to actually look up in scripture to back up my answers and if im wrong, then im wrong but im basically answering these ?’s by my expierence and what you have taught me when you were here in Peru. (sry it took me so long to answer, i havent been online)
Does love always hurt?
Love can alway hurt if you let it. If you keep your feeling bottled inside, it will evenutally hurt and you will eventually not want to love anymore. Also love will alway hurt you. You take a risk when you choose to love(notice I said love is a choice not a feeling, one thing you stress to make sure I and other ppl learned). If you don’t take a risk, you won’t love. Life is about taking risk and love (unfortunely) is one thing you have to take a risk for. I will say with my expierence love has always hurt me. Not really cuz I choose to let it, but cuz that’s how it happened, but in time it won’t hurt anymore.. When you choose to love something, you give your whole heart(well your suppose to) and when something bad happens for example break up or someone leaves, your heart will hurt and loving will hurt. It’s just how we were made, but love doesnt always hurt.. There are good things that come from love that make it not hurt. Love was created by God and that means Love is good and its doesnt hurt, but b/c we live in a sinful world, it will hurt, just like everything else..
What do you do?
I don’t know what this ? is asking, so I cant answer it, but if you let me know, maybe I can answer it.
Why do some people resist love?
Some people resist love because they have been hurt in the past by something or someone and they just choose to not love or choose to resist it. I know Ive been in that boat before. This is kinda hard to explain b/c every situation is different but thats pretty much it.
Can we watch A Night At The Roxbury sometime? (I used Haddaway’s What is Love in our video for the evening). Sure, why not…
Are there levels of love?
Yes there are levels of love. I cant exacually remember how you (brett) explain this, but ill try my best, again sry if i get this wronge. Love is one thing, but it comes in different levels, but really they all mean the same. Love gets thrown around alot like I love chocolate, I love my family, I love my friends, I love my boyfriend, I love my pets, I love Mt. Dew, I love God, etc. to some point they are the same but to another point their not. There are (as i see) 4 different levels. Level one I will call Puppy Love- you know the love for food and material items, its not really a meantful thing, but you enjoy them, so you “love them”.. Level two- Temporaly love- you know love for friends that don’t last for ever and boyfriend and girlfriends and sometimes pets. Level three- the love you have for family. Level four- the love that you have for your husband or wife and kids and God. The reason why there are level is because each level you give certain parts to. Level 4 you give your whole life to and you do alot for them, level 3 you give some of your life to them and you do a lil for them but not as much as level 4. Im not going on, cuz i think you get what im saying and if not, ill explain more later, but i think u do a better job at this one..
Why does love hurt?
Sunday School Answer- SIN!!! Thats the easy way to say it.. and its very true..
What is sex? Sex is the connection that a man and woman(thats how its suppose to be but cuz of sin this world is messed up and yea)have and tech. you are suppose to do this when you are married, but ppl dont, and it deals with the genitals of both male and female. There are two types of sex but they are still sex. Oral- when one’s mouth is on the others genital(not going further). Regular Sex(don’t remember the technical term for this) when the penis(male’s genital) goes into the vagina(woman’s genital), agian not going further.. Sex often leaves to STD’s and Pregancy… PROTECTION DONT ALWAYS WORK!! Also Sex does leave scars, mentally, physically and emotionally. You become attach to that person you had sex with and just like your first kiss, you won’t forget them.. I can go on, but I know you have a better answer, Mr. Webster..
How do love and sex combine? I have to say this is by far the best question and very tricky.. Do you have Elmo’s twin in your group, cuz whoever ask this ?’s thinks alot like me.. muhahahahahahaha…. you can have sex without love, but sex does cause there to be some love. but really the real answer to this question is GOD!!! Again SUNDAY SCHOOL answer, but hey, I got to keep this post short, and you been around me 2 yrs. you know how i think and how i would answer these questions and if you want a paper over the answer to these questions, just ask and ill give it to ya, but back to answer these questions..
What is the point where people can date? This answer is basically up to the person and parents. Parents do have rules to when you can date, but most teens break them rules. When you are ready, your ready. Just follow what your gut tells you and if you were wrong, you will know.. There is not point or age when someone can date..
At what point is purple okay? umm, agian its up to the person and setting a line isnt really smart, cuz you will keep trying to get really close to it, and thats not good. Follow your gut but really when it comes to the point where you feel uncomfortable or the clothes are coming off, that means its too far. And don’t do it in public(kinda gross), holding hands is fine and a kiss here and kiss there is fine, but when you are making out in public, noone wants to see that. so no PDA please.. Dont do anything sexual(that means keep your pants on and shirt on and make sure theres no going up the shirt or down the pants and stay away from private parts(penis, vagina, boobs)
Why do people love? People love cuz thats how were design to do. When we came out of the womb, we wanted love. We were always meant to love and God intended it to be that way and God loves us, so yea.. But I do say, it is easy to not love, but yea..Its kinda hard to explain this, but i can sometime once i have more time and i think about it. Again this is a good question, 2 prompts to Elmo’s Twin…
When is it okay to look at a girl’s body? hahaha… Depends what you are looking at. Boobs and Butt, you prolly shouldnt be looking at( I know its hard cuz girls are just to gorgeous not to look at and they sometimes make it so its hard not to look at), but looking causes lust and other bad things, thats isnt a good thing(sin). Now you can look at girls eyes and all that stuff, as long as you arnt sinning. Saying a girl is beautiful is fine, but saying a girl is sexy and hott is most likely leading towards lust. Theres not set age to when you can look at a girl’s body(ur going to all ur life), but certain things should wait till your in a relationship(or technical term, married).. This is kinda hard for me to answer cuz im a girl, but i tried.. u prolly can answer better then i can..
Do we all have soulmates? Yes. We all have someone we are suppose to be with, but not everyone finds them due to alot of reasons. Now thoses who arnt married and will never get married(some being nuns) are soulmates with God and Jesus.. God intended that for a reason..
How should we show our love as Christians to a girlfriend/boyfriend? Just be yourself and dont do anything that feels uncomfortable. If ur being a fake, ur not being a christian.. so be yourself…
Why should we love? Again good ? to Elmo’s Twin.. This is kinda of tricky ?, I bet it took you awhile to answer this one Brett. muhahahaha.. Easy Answer, Cuz its hard not to love and because thats how God wants it to be.. IF theres not love, theres not much of anything.. Love is the base of alot of things.. If you had no love and you didnt love, you would be a rock.
How can we love people who hurt us? This is a good question and another 2 props to Elmo’s Twin.. I find it hard to love ppl who have hurt me infact there are many ppl in my life that i dont love, cuz they hurt me and that includes God. Love doesnt fix the pain that was caused and the hurt, but in the end it will. I heard this saying and I believe it very much and infact i plan on getting it tattoo on me soon(under my 2 dolphins that form a heart)and that is Love Conquers All.. Through everything you go through, through all the pain, there will be one day that it will all be fix. This is a tough answer to fix, but i do think one day you will love the ppl who hurt you(us), it just takes time and healing to heal the scars and to forgive. We arnt perfect and we arnt God, so its hard for us to do things fast, but we will one day. But back to Love Conquers All, it is so true. Cuz in the end love conquers over all the bad that has happen and it wins the war. For example, Jesus dying on the cross. That was love and with that he killed death.. Get what im saying.. I wont go on, but i will write something about it one day and email it to you Brett and if you want you can post it on here, idc…
Why does love exist? SUNDAY SCHOOL ANSWER- GOD!!!!
Is love kissing? And when you do [kiss] and they [the one you kissed] dump you was that love to start off with? Love is not kissing, but its a way of showing love, but not always. Ive kissed ppl but that doesnt meant i love them or it was love. If you break up and you did kiss, there prolly was love but not alot of love… kissing isnt love…
Can love be felt by anyone? Is it felt for everyone? YES, and YES!!! Thats an easy answer, cuz this is kinda a question that will go into alot and i dont really feel like going into that discussion… maybe I’ll mention it in my paper..
There you go Brett, got any comments or ?’s or you want me to write a paper over this, you know how to reach me and do that… LATER!!!!
MISS YA GUYS!!!!